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What Bruce Springsteen Can Teach Us About Creating A Community

This week, I saw Bruce Springsteen play live (again.) The strangest most amazing thing happened not during the show, but before it even started. This story shows how a community is supportive, cross-generational, and how the most interesting connections happen in the funniest of ways…

My brother and I arrived at the show hours early, and were lucky enough to get into “the pit,” right up front by the stage. We ended up sitting in a group in front of the stage chatting, waiting 3 hours for the show to begin. In the group with my brother and me were:

  • Lenny, a 56 year old guy (it was his birthday)
  • His 19 year old son
  • Two 17 year old girls

We chatted for an hour off and on, then I noticed that one of their shirts said “Chatham,” the town next to mine. I assumed all four of them were one family, so I asked Lenny if they lived in Chatham. He said he didn’t, but used to 30 years ago. The girls then clarified that they were not related to Lenny and his son, but that they did live in Chatham.

Lenny was a charismatic guy, a real talker. He was telling all of us about his time in Chatham, and began describing where he lived. He mentioned a steep hill, a sharp curve, a driveway at a crazy angle, a house with an apartment built-in, the river across the street, a steep wall behind the house he lived in in the early 1980s.

The girls started freaking out. Long story short… Lenny lived in the exact same house that one of these two girls lives in right now.

So we go on talking, Lenny describing his time in the house, the parties they had, etc. He mentioned his roommate, who also owned the house. As he is telling a story about their adventures, he happens to mention the roomate’s name. Long story short AGAIN, and Lenny’s roommate was this girl’s father. Not only that, but Lenny is the one that introduced the girl’s mother to her father.

The six of us are watching this story unfold, dumbfounded at the connections.

Lenny, the consummate storyteller keeps talking. It turns out, the girl’s father was the person who took Lenny to his first Bruce Springsteen concert back in 1979. Here we are in 2012 sitting 10 feet from the stage waiting for Bruce to come on and here is Lenny chatting with his old friend’s daughter.

Full circle.

Lenny kept talking (this would go on all night, even through the 3-hour concert), and mentioned how he and this girl’s father didn’t part on good terms. That he had actually been reflecting on that a few months back, and gave the girl a message to tell her father: that he regretted that they didn’t part as friends.

Full circle.

This whole time, Lenny’s 19 year old son is sitting there, shaking his head and smiling. Evidently, this type of thing happens a lot – his father is that type of guy.

Later on, Lenny is telling us the story of the time he bumped into Bruce Springsteen in a mens room. As they were walking out, he thanked Bruce for being a role model for his son, who was a huge fan. He mentioned that not only was Bruce himself a role model, but the community of fans were as well. That in some way, they were helping to raise him by teaching community ideals, a sense of purpose, common ground, and kindness.

I talk to a lot of writers about connecting with others in their communities, both online and off, and the powerful effect this can have. Oftentimes, people assume this is about marketing, but it really isn’t. It is about being part of a community that will bring you full circle, not just professionally, but personally.

And yes, the concert was amazing:

Bruce Springsteen

-Dan

  • Annie

    What an awesome story! A few people I know live with these kinds of connections (myself and several of my family members especially). To me it is about being so present in your moments that it all comes together. Thanks for starting my day off so nicely.

  • Caryl

    That’s an amazing story! And a freakin amazing photo, btw!

  • Anonymous

    Dan: A beautiful story. When this kind of connection happens to me, it’s often because I set aside my preconceptions and snap judgments about people based on their appearance or political leanings. It’s almost always possible to find common ground with someone if you’re open enough.

    • Great observation Doug – so true! I tried to set this story up that way: why were these 6 people actually even talking to each other?!
      -Dan

  • Goofygirl1313

    That must have been a twilight zone moment
    when the story kept unfolding layer after layer and like you said, come full
    circle. Similar events have happened in my life recently. 1) My high school
    friend was in the same fraternity with my husband – found that out at my 20
    year high school reunion. 2) My cousin’s husband went to a dentist when he was
    a kid – turns out that dentist is my husband’s uncle – found that out at our
    wedding reception. Now I know how my mom found out about all the things my
    sisters and I did because you never know who is around you and who knows who!
    To quote one of my favorite songs – “It’s a small world after
    all…”!

    • Indeed! But of course, we need to be open to those moments in order for them to happen.
      -Dan

  • Dan, I really liked this piece.  I follow your tweets and posts from time to time, and this story certainly conveys that sense of what community is, and how meaningful connections can be, by simply reaching out to those around you, offline and on.  My  community role model was my grandfather, who was very successful – but I remember more the way, at his funeral, what people said of him was the way he would stop to say hello and ask how one’s family was.  Daily connections certainly enrich our lives.  Thanks.

    • Elissa,
      Thank you for sharing this. I often think about those “characters” who make a community, a community. The value of those everyday experiences you mention. Thank you!
      -Dan